I’m working for a telecommunication company. While I write several reports and presentation, it makes me under pressure. Many cases related with my anxiety are expectation and ambiguity.
Sometimes I realize my ability and the limit that I can get, but at the same time I believe I can achieve my goal though the best effort. This psychic reaction is based on the basic instinction of self-respect. But it’s very important how to regulate to show self-respect. If the desire for satisfying my goal spills over the moderate line, those efforts grow to an unexpected burdensome things.
For example, I can handle 2 to 3 projects including my private life as a family man. But because of over-confidence or avarice, I take 4 and more. And the result is easy to anticipate. Normally it will drive you to the bottom line of your persistency. And you didn’t fulfill from the results of projects, but there is no way to try again. All things have already finished.
From this simple truth, we can get more practical lesson.
“Just define what is not decided and if you find out what you can change, you should.”
Whether the result is satisfying, you should accept it. The past flied away is just the past. There is nothing to do. And reality always has infinite possibilities. But it’s restricted to the area that we can handle. Though we do our best to get a goal, there are many limit in real world environmentally, physically, fiscally….
So to define the situation and need more clearly is the first step for the next move.
When I took an examination last sunday, I worried everything around the exam all the time. After the exam of taking 6 hours, I’m totally exhausted. At that time, my friend told me,
“You forget about the exam. It’s over. There’s nothing to change. It’s no use to worry about.”
It occured to me that I addicted so many needless anxiety. I concerned almost everything which I was related to.
This experience relieve me of over-stress and barriers keep me away from getting my objectives.